And the extreme type of relationship.
Extremes in God.
Living in fear while in a relationship.
God wants you to be married.
It is ok to feel attracted to the opposite sex.
God created us to be attracted.
The issue is whether we're gonna do it in the light of God.
What defines, what dating really ought to be like? Or look like?
Do let Jesus to allow show you how it looks like?
Do we trust Him?
Will you really trust what God has to say about dating?
Godly dating?
No scripture. No text, no paul.
Nothing to tell us what to do.
Is it possible to understand what dating is, in this century?
Discover when God calls us a man/woman.
Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.
Define the most important part of dating:
Your singleness is the most important part.
Who you are when your single is who you would be when your dating.
1. Define who you are in Christ.
Where you long for Christ to change you from the inside out.
Galatians 2: 20
"I have crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live. But Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me."
If your singleness is not right, then your heading towards turmoil.
Two sinful people does not make a right.
2. Maturity in God
Ephesians 4, unity and mature. To the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.
It does not have to do with perfection.
You do not have to be perfect to date.
Maturity happens when we die in our problems and ask God to help us.
Relationships work when both parties hold each other up to work together and grow in Christ.
God wants to root out all the sinful secret junk.
God wants us to deal with our secret sin, to be honest.
If you haven't dealt with it, then the relationship will not work out.
You will self-implode, when you wait to solve your secret sin.
Honesty.
Many married couples are in distraught because the wives are weeping because their husbands are locked down to pornography.
Being in a relationship does not stop pornography.
Godly Community.
Use this season of singleness to solve your problems.
Be right now, before you move on.
If you get along great with the opposite sex, there's probably something wrong you have with the same sex.
It is wrong to be in a relationship and having close friends who are the opposite sex. Your partner will not be happy.
Healthy Interaction with the Opposite Sex.
1 Timothy 5: 5
"Do not rebuke older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity."
It is bad to use woman to your own self pleasure.
Vice versa to woman.
Do not treat men other than brothers.
For guys:
1. Biblical man, in the scriptures when it comes to dating.
2. Called to be of honor, called to comminucate, called to pursue.
3. Reject being a pansy. Lol... man up. Don't be some limping puppy.
Biblical dating is about Biblical manhood, and God is whom we should copy.
Romans 12:9-10
"Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor."
Men start to honor, are when they start to communicate.
You honor a girl by saying what your thinking and doing what you said.
Don't be a chicken, do what you say.
Be king of the DTR. Define The Relationship.
Dudes should be the one leading the way that defines the relationship.
Men are the ones whom should be chasing the women.
If you like a girl, be honest and say something like:
"Hey I really enjoyed hanging out with you, would you like to hang out soon. Could I call you and go to lifegroup?"
That's what lifegroup is for :D
Taking time to let her know that your interested in her.
Friends, "intentional friendship", Relationship. :P
It is important to know the girl in her community.
To see what she's like, how she lives with her friends, peers, leaders. Know who she is.
Girls stop wondering what guys are thinking.
But if he calls you and wants to hang out with you with some friends then you know what his thinking.
Girls you have every right to say yes/no.
You have more control.
1000 years ago women were traded like possessions.
Don't listen to the world.
The world is brutal to women.
Woman are the 50% of the creation.
Guys have to wait too, if God did not give him the green light then he does not deserve you.
Proverbs 4:23
"Keep your heart with all vigilance, ..."
When the time has been spent in the intentional friendship.
The guys, you have the chance to ask her out, to be honest.
The girls, you have the right to say yes or no.
Be honest with them.
Guys, you supremely honor. Pay for everything.
Use de-odorant. Open the door.
Do all of this, because when time passes and she feels that your not keeping her, then she can walk away.
Ladies, too keep your heart, if the dude only talks about apples and rashes, walk away.
Don't lie, don't give the God told me this or that.....
You do not worry about hurting people's feelings, because God wants you to be honest. He handles everything.
Cause the hurt can look to God for help.
When it goes well, you spent time with each other in community and dating. If the people around you agree and she also feels the same then it is time to move on.
Time to give gifts, write notes, flowers.
Share hearts.
There are no rules, but be faithful and honor God, in a Godly way.
Measure of physical interaction:
Men, you define the relationship.
Men you talk about the boundaries.
The moronic question :
How far is too far?
The real question is,
How far is too far till you anger God?
When you go pass those boundaries with someone your not in covenant with, you will start to rot.
You won't be able to lead out as a Biblical man.
You dishonor your wife.
What if we're not physically compatible?
Then you have your whole marriage.
If your seeking to do as much as you do and get away with it, then your destroying your life.
Guys, man-up, the most honest thing you can do, is ask the girl's father whether you can be in a relationship with her.
Make him know that you will honor her in everyway.
The girl is worth it to do that.
Don't worry about the father, any father would feel honored to know that a guy wants to honor his daugther.
There is no sex in dating. It would be all about your selfishness. Even if you are still a virgin and did everything else under the sun then you have sinned.
Sexual immorality is sin.
1 Corinthians 6:19b -20
"You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body."
Jesus can purify anything. If you have sinned, do not lose hope, do not think you horrible. God is creator. God makes all things new. Through all things are pure. through Him you can stand pure at your wedding day.
Date in a Godly way.
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